Moab '08

This past weekend my brother came out from Oregon with his family to visit. We decided to take them down to Moab for part of that time and - since we weren't sure how he'd deal with all the sun, the long drive, the dust, etc - Robbie stayed with Grummy and Grumpy.

We had a good time and I'm pretty sure my brother and his family did as well. Since I didn't have a toddler to chase, feed and entertain, I was able to take quite a few pictures.


The crew: sweaty, dusty and hungry.

Jaime, playing way too close to the edge.

Jeremy, surveying the scene.

The ride.

Michele, being camera shy.

Jamie enjoying the bumpy descent.

A vertical ascent.

A portrait of Toby and I - really...look closely in his glasses.

Toby and Jaime under Delicate Arch

The whole family under Delicate Arch. This is just before group sunburn set in and we stiffened up.

The trail we took.

Jamie looking like the Grim Reaper. He had a blue jawbreaker...and I guess he was cold. Now that I think about it, he looks a bit like Charlie from Lost.

The Single Leading Cause of Divorce

I've heard again and again that money is the leading cause of divorce. Not adultery...not battery...not eating crackers in bed....money.

Toby and I have never fought about money - but - that doesn't mean there isn't room for improvement in the way we handle it. Our big failing, in my mind, is that we are too darn nice to each other. I have friends whose husbands "don't let them" buy things. I don't have any idea what that is like. We give each other permission to buy anything our little hearts desire.

It sounds great at first (especially if your spouse is a penny-pinching coupon weilding Hun), but I think we both need the other to the be the bad guy sometimes...and that just aint happenin' in this relationship.

We need a hard-liner. We need a nay-sayer. We need a "No Man". So we're bringing in a pro.

Neither of us goes in for self-help books or the latest pop-psych advice. We don't watch Dr. Phil or Suze Orman....we don't get all tingly when we see Tony Robbins. But...we do like listening to all the morons...I mean, all the people with really messed up finances...that call into the Dave Ramsey Show. So, Saturday the 17th we're going to be attending the Dave Ramsey Live event at the E Center. I'm really hoping he can convert us (in five short hours) into the aforementioned penny-pinching, coupon weilding, budget bulldogs we need to be.

This is what the seminar promises to teach:

1. How to spend purposefully with an easy-to-follow plan.
   
2. What it takes to get out of debt and stay out of debt.
   
3. How to deal with the differences between men and women when it comes to finances.
   
4. The power of compound interest and how it affects your savings.
   
5. How to become a cheerful giver.
   
6. How to invest with confidence using diversification.
   
7. How to communicate better with your spouse about money.
   
8. How to work the Debt Snowball.
   
9. The basics of mutual funds.
   
10. How to get a good deal on a car or house.

If anyone else that reads this little blip in cyberspace would like to come with us, we'd love to have you!

Grass...oh how I miss thee...

When we decided to move to our new house last year, I knew there would be trade-offs. We'd lose our great neighbors but we'd have more space. We'd give up our awesome sunken patio but we'd have an actual master bathroom. We'd be walking away from the bathroom we remodeled with awesome floor to ceiling limestone...but we'd get one attached to our own bedroom.

The one thing I did not think about and have actually missed the most (besides the neighbors) is having grass (which we'll soon have again). The picture above was taken in our front yard one summer evening when my friend Shannon and I were hanging out with our kids on the lawn and our hubbies were off riding motorcycles.

This week we (by which I mean Toby) planted three trees in the front yard...grass is budgeted and scheduled for May....so hopefully we'll soon be lounging on lush green carpet again soon.

Robbie may miss the dirt...but with half an acre of room to play, I am positive he'll find another nice big patch to dig in.

Because Breakfast is the Most Dangerous Meal

Maybe he thinks if he wears it we'll go on a bike ride. Maybe when he wears it reminds him of all the bike rides he's enjoyed?




Maybe it's like eating a York Peppermint Patty....and wearing it gives him the sensation of zinging down the alps...er, down the street. If you didn't get that, don't worry. You're probably just under 30.

Buddy's Bowl-o-rama

Back in February when some family was in town from out of state we all went bowling (yes, bowling) in Tooele. What I remember most from that outing was that everyone was eating pizza and it was just killing me that I couldn't eat any (can anyone say "New Year's Resolution"?).

Anyway here are some pictures!


Teresa giving some bowling tips to Toby.

Toby swinging for the fences.

Jason

Teresa

Grummy (Kathy) sportin' her supreme bowling form

Karla (AKA "Auntie K")

Robbie inspecting the alley

Carter bowling his first round

Robbie excited to be pushing something heavy down a ramp toward certain destruction.

World's sexiest footwear (and might I say, cleanest- to be sure)

My husband...

When he tills my garden he talks to the tiller like it's a plow horse.

"Giddyup - ha!"

and when it bucks back on some stubborn dirt...

"woa bessie!"

If that's not endearing, I don't know what is.

Backyard Farming

This weekend was spent working in the ol' "back forty" otherwise known as our enormous blank canvas of a yard. The fence is almost completely done now...and instead of making the yard feel smaller it actually feels bigger.

Besides watching our fence go in, we also prepared my new garden and finished the sprinkler system.

Because I'm too busy (lazy?) to start a separate garden journal to track what I planted and when, I'm planning to just record it here and then you can follow the progress too.

This is only my third garden. The first year I went a bit overboard and ended up with six separate six foot tall tomato plants among many other mammoth sized veggies. I was hauling sacks of zucchini and tomatoes to work on a daily basis. I was almost to the "knock and run" level of veggie sharing when I dug up the plants and called it the end of the growing season.

The second year I was more cautious but lost control for different reasons - I was working full time and had begun wedding photography.

This should be a good garden year. Robbie loves to be outside so it should be easy to find time to do a little watering and weeding each day. The trick is going to be keeping Robbie's dump truck, loader, rake and shovel from "helping".

Planted so far:
Red Cabbage
Sweet Peas
Ozard Beauty Strawberries
Provence Lavendar
Taragon
Sage
Onion Chive
Rosemary

To be planted:
French salad mix
Onions

Around memorial day I plan to plant some warmer weather veggies like peppers, pumpkin, watermelon, cucumber, zucchini, tomatillos.

I'm most excited about the lavender (for me) and the strawberries (to get Robbie interested).

McDonalds: I'm Hatin' It.

I don't have a lot of childhood memories of McDonalds. I always thought it was because, with four kids, my parents didn't have a lot of money to spend on fast food. Now I know that it was probably more likely that my parents knew what torture lay in store for them if they took a small child to this evil den of iniquity.

My theory is that they spray a fine mist of a pro-psychotic aerosol drug through the ventilation system. That has to be it, because we hadn't even partaken of the factory-fresh goodness that is their food before Robbie was doing a full on impression of Charles Manson.

Let me back up. Last night we made the profound mistake of keeping Robbie up late by taking him my friend Jon's house for a Lost party. He was pretty good at the party but by the time we got home and got him in bed it was almost 11 pm. Misake number one.

Today around lunchtime I took Robbie with me to pick up some vinyl I had cut for his new room. The lady that makes the vinyl for me also runs a day care in her home and has a bazillion toys and children that Robbie immediately locked onto. In order to get him out of her house without him disolving into tears and fits, I whispered in his ear that I'd take him to McDonalds for a chocolate milk. Mistake number two.

He immediately perked up and said "McDonalds?" with an eloquence of diction that should have put me on guard. He's only been inside McDonalds one time, when he was 13 months old. Being able to repeat it back so clearly should have warned me that someone (Grummy?!) must have introduced him more recently. I was too busy being proud of myself for distracting him. Mistake number three.

My faulty thinking was that I could just swing through the drive up window for his milk and get us on our way home. When we got in line at the drive through he started lunging toward the left side of the car (as much as you can lunge in a car seat anyway) and moaning "That way!" while pointing at the Play Place. "Ok" I thought, I'll take him inside and he can play for a few minutes (you can laugh now) which was my biggest mistake of all.

I'll make this story shorter by just saying this: there was laughter, there was tears, there was a show stopping scene of a full on tantrum that made me wonder when someone would call the police to report me for kidnapping. Surely no child would react so violently to being picked up by their own mother, right? There was falling on the floor, there was kicking...and then there was the head butt he dealt me that I'm fairly sure is going to become a black eye.

That was two hours ago. To this minute he's upstairs in his bed moaning "more Donald's" while fighting against sleep.

McDonalds? Not again in this century, pal.

Update on the "Big Boy Bed"

Since the infamous incident of the bloody feet Robbie has been doing really well in the Big Boy bed. Last night he asked to sleep in his crib - but calmly and without any drama. He's now had two full naps and one full night's sleep in the bed without getting up once.

It does take him quite a bit longer to fall asleep at nap time (about an hour), but he never gets out of the bed.

From the Mouths of Babes

Robbie's vocabulary has really taken off in the last three weeks. He's gone from one and two word demands...er...requests, to three, for and even five word sentences. Along with this comes a lot of funny moments.

Some of the words he says don't come out quite the way he meant them. Luckily we know what he's saying, but in public it can be a little bit unnerving to have your toddler son shout
"Fork Lift" ...but that's not how it sounds. Or point to the wall and shriek "clock!" but again...that's not how it sounds to any other ears but his and mine. People who aren't familiar with toddlerese probably think we're letting him watch late night HBO.

A new pastime of his seems to be to get us to sing by asking something like "tinkle star, mommy?" and then when I start to sing he says "all done mommy" or, in Toby's case he says "daddy, stop it!"

Funniest of all is that now he is starting to sing too....his favorite is the Bob the Builder theme song. he asks me to sing it, then when I stop he sings "Baaaaaaaab Builder........DONE!". It's pretty cute and makes me wish I could keep him right this age for 6 months or so.

The Mystery of the Bloody Feet

Last night was Robbie's first attempt at sleeping overnight in the "Big Boy Bed." We had tried it at nap time too and it was an utter disaster.

He pretty much considered the bed a cool place to chill as long as he was entertained. As soon as I would turn my back he was out and running around.

We went through the usual routine of stories and talking again and again about how he has to stay in bed...but 10 minutes later Toby went to investigate and Robbie was out of bed again - only this time he had started screaming bloody murder and shouting for "mommy".

I came running up the stairs asking what was wrong and Toby said he though he was frightened because that's how we was screaming - not "temper tantrum" crying but "help me I'm dying" crying. It was dark, so we didn't immediately see the problem, but after a minute I saw that there was blood all over both of his feet...and my hands...and my shirt...and Toby's shorts.

We flipped on some lights and couldn't see where the blood was coming from and there wasn't any on the sheets or bed but there was a little on the carpet. We inspected his feet and couldn't find any gashes that would justify that kind of bleeding. After a lot of searching I found one super tiny nick on the outside edge of his pinky toe. It wasn't bleeding anymore but we decided that had to be the problem.

We looked all around the room and in the carpet for the culprit and came up with nothing. We checked the carpet, the bed, the bed frame, the bed rails, everywhere.

By this time Robbie was calmer and insisting he sleep in the Big Boy Bed and not the Little Boy Bed. We put him back in bed and he slept all night without getting up once.

Then this morning while we were all getting ready he explained the mysterious injury in his toddler-esque combination of charades and words.

Apparently he had gotten out of bed to shut the door (he always sleeps with it shut but I had it open because of the new bed and wanting to hear if he was up). When he shut the door, the bottom of it nicked his toe and, apparently, he kept rubbing his feet together because one of them hurt - thus blood on two feet. This was right when Toby walked in and picked him up (blood on shorts) and handed him to me (blood on shirt).

So the moral of this story is: if you're having a hard time getting your toddler to stay in bed, just sprinkle thumb tacks all around the carpet. Then they'll be too afraid to get down.

More Sneak Peak

The new project involving the blue carpet stain is Robbie's new room. He's pretty excited about it...and that's a good thing. I've been building it up for three weeks now and he has been fascinated with the progress. Every morning when he wakes up he points to the room across the hall and says "new room!" and we talk about how he is going to get a "big boy bed" and a new room.

The colors are going to be pretty bright - blue, orange and aqua. Sort of a "Finding Nemo" palette - aquarium with a dash of bright orange. Kind of like the blogger interface now that I think of it. In addition to the bright colors, I'm making up several decals in vinyl that match his paint scheme.

Today we go to pick up his dresser and this weekend we should be pulling off the masking tape...so hopefully within a week he'll be making the move.

My hope (and it may be futile) is that he'll be so in love with his new room that it will be incentive to stay in his "big boy bed". The alternative....his cage...er....crib will still be assembled across the hall in his old room.

Sneak Peak

We've been working on a little project here. Yesterday we hit a little snag... I am not sure what happened since I was just out in the hallway when Toby must have dropped something - probably his paint brush. Anyway, the result is that we've officially christened the new carpet in the new house with its first irremovable stain -and it's a doozy.

Wide Open is Delicious

Before I had the final bits to make the pocket wizards work for my flash I was playing with my 50mm 1.4. This is a lens with a really large maximum aperture which basically just means it lets in more light, so I can take pictures in lower light. I chose as my test subject, Robbie playing on our bed. The light is just morning window light from a west facing window.

Later that day I took a few more in the living room.

Wow, Nice Diffuse Highlight Transition Area!

Most photographers I know have a love/hate relationship with their flash. Most beginners are afraid of their flash and most of us that know how to use it still don't like the harsh shadows and the harsh specular highlights it causes. But - we all need it sooner or later.
For Valentine's Day this year Toby bought me a really romantic gift - a set of Pocket Wizards. I wanted them for studio sessions - so I could ditch the cord I was using to trigger my lights.

Pocket wizards also let you trigger your camera flash without it being on your camera.
Recently I acquired (thanks again to Toby) the last couple bits of hardware I needed to make these fun gadgets work with my flash units. Let me say - its like a whole new world!

I apologize if I am boring the non shutterbugs out there, but look at these pictures. Would you have pegged them as shot with a flash?

They look like we just had lots of great overhead and window light in our house - but these were shot in the evening and at night and the overhead light in the room was off.

Daddy's New "Mo-Icle"

Toby recently got a new toy and its hard to tell who is more excited - Toby or Robbie.
Buying the new toy was kind of a long process - as all auto purchases tend to be. Surprisingly, Robbie was an angel through the whole process. It must have been because of the surroundings and the free popcorn.

Well it is called a Radio FLYER!

Yesterday Robbie saw me folding laundry and just had to wear his new Thomas underwear. I thought it would be a good way to get him interested in potty training but that's not exactly how it worked out.

Instead, wearing big boy underwear made him really excited and he started dancing, jumping, hopping and lunging all over the main floor. It was pretty cute so I grabbed my camera and got a bunch of great shots of him being silly.

Then I said "pull your wagon" and somehow he heard "swing your wagon like a viking battle ax!" and that's just what he did.

I was using a wide angle lens. A very wide lens.
For all you non-photographers out there, this means that to get this shot I was extremely close. The radio flyer missed my lens and face by about 2 inches.

Needless to say, this shot wrapped our little shoot.

Don't Bother Me, I'm Having a Tantrum.

He's cute and funny and charming...when he wants to be.

When he tries to "sooth me" after doing something naughty by ever-so-gently patting his sticky hand on my shoulder and looking intently into my eyes with his knit brow... I want to laugh and cry simultaneously.

When he shouts "Wow!" in the most amazed voice, eyes as big as golf balls and mouth wide open and knees bent... he makes me feel like a kid myself.

When he spontaneously crumples to the floor, covers his face and starts moaning like a bad professional mourner....he makes me want to sell him to the gypsies.

Robbie's March Video Highlights

I've been meaning to edit some video forever...here is my first video post. Robbie was pretty excited about the whole egg coloring experience.

Last Christmas

Right after Christmas we went to Oregon to visit my family. This was my very first attempt to put anything on YouTube...and mysteriously 22 people watched it. I wonder if they felt ripped off after waiting for the download - there really is no big pay off at the end. No one goes "endo" or does a 360.

It was more of an experiment that helped me decide to return the digital camera I had just gotten. A Canon 5D would of course be my preferred camera but is not what I would call pocket sized. It also doesn't do video.

This camera was tiny - which is what I wanted so I could carry it in my pocket. On the downside it limited video clips to ten seconds. And a Murphy's Law would dictate - if anything good happens, it will happen in the 11th second. And it did...again and again that day.

When we got home, we went back to Costco and traded it in for a slightly chunkier, but much smarter pocket camera.

Is it any wonder I do so much laundry?

Between the dirt, the dirty shovel and the snotty nose - its more than I can keep up with. Then add food and I'm up to my ears in laundry.

This is the face that says "don't tell me i have to come in already!"

A Rare Find

Toby and I were a debate the other night about how (I feel) it's unfortunate that the world is getting to be a tougher place for small business to compete since huge corporations have the power to snuff out the little guy with money, political power, pressure, etc. We were talking specifically about the decline of independent farms and cattle ranchers (wake up - I am almost to the good part).

Toby, of course, did not agree with me at all. He's an avowed capitalist and ...well, if you know Toby you don't need the long version of the story.

The debate didn't go anywhere but I am happy to say I found one little niche on the web where you can still get hand-made (in the U.S.A.!) products at affordable prices.

It is called Etsy and it is an online marketplace for the cottage industries, artisans and small businesses to sell their items.

I stumbled on it by chance when I was reading about my new camera bag - which promises to change my life. On Etsy, I found a matching clutch that I can clip to my camera bag to hold my keys, cell phone, lip gloss, etc.

As if that weren't cool enough - I found a clothing designer in Washington that will custom make me a (super cute) dress for about the same price you would pay at Macy's. Dresses never fit me right because I am super short. Petites don't work either because I am a bit too long in the torso for the waist to fall in the right spot. I am pretty excited to find an excuse to need a dress.

The Other Side of the Camera

As photographers, Kim and I commented to each other that we never seem to be IN any of our photos from vacations, birthdays, etc. Mostly we don't mind. I don't think either of us really love to be in front of the lens. But, we thought it might be nice to have some photos of ourselves in Hawaii so we made a point to shoot each other every now and then. Last night Kim emailed me two she took of me. She's managed to make me look good when i was sweaty, blinded by the sun, windblown and generally - looking like a troll (I am not kidding - I have seen other shots taken of me on the same day by another photographer not ten minutes later).

Thanks, Kim. It was fun traveling with you.

Personal Work

Personal work sounds a bit like an oxymoron...but in photography it is a critical part of being a well rounded photographer...or so I recently learned. I got into photographry because it was fun. I got into doing it for money because I wanted to buy more equipment for my hobby. Then it snowballed until the only time I picked up my camera was when I was being paid...and my personal work became completely non-existent. 

The recent workshop I attended has fired me up again to do more personal work - which explains all the new posts of late. Here are a few photos from date night...yes I packed my camera around then too. Fortunately for you, I am selective about what I actually post on the web!

The Cheesecake Anniversary

Forget the paper anniversary, the gold, the silver. We have a new tradition to put on the books. This year we celebrated with Cheesecake takeout party while we stayed at Hotel Monaco for a date night.

Happy 6th Anniversary, Toby!

AirPane!!!

Robbie has radar - or something like it. He can hear the sound of an airplane before any of us. Whenever he does, he calls it out at top volume and starts looking for it in the sky. AirPane!! He's still working on the "L".